To hide something from you family can be a big deal. Lying and deception can be damaging to your relationships, but sometimes it can be a necessity. In circumstances it can be to protect them from things you wouldn’t want them to know, or it can be to preserve the status quo.
I spoke to Alex, a young aspiring musician who hides his aspirations from his family. Currently, Alex is still in high school and is about to commence his final year. When he spoke to me, he revealed what he is hiding from his parents. His true passion lies with music and arts, but his parents have made it clear what they want from his education; a degree and a “normal” career.
Alex has played along with them, and has hidden his true intentions. “I tell them I want to take a gap year… but I want to spend that year trying to get into the music industry…it’s possible I won’t even go to university.”
Alex told me his parents support his artistic side, but heavily encourages the importance of tertiary education and a proper, well defined career.
Max, another musician based in Sydney, has had a similar experience. To live in Sydney and enjoy the life he does, Max like lot’s of people his age need the financial support of their family. Max, has been studying and Sydney University, but as he made clear to me, it’s just so he can afford to play music.
At the end of the day, both Max and Alex have a fine and beautiful talent, and it’s their own future.
Soon enough, they won’t have to hide, as they both have the ability to shape their passion into a career and pursue their goals.